I’ve been using the internet since its baby phase, where the connections
were dialup and just one song took hours to download.
So I am well aware that sharing an opinion online, about anything
basically, can potentially cause a lot of controversy and unnecessary drama,
which both are things nobody wants and needs, but this is something I am
honestly confused about.
Lately, on many different occasions, I’ve come across the following
phrase: Say what you feel, it's not
being rude, it's being real.
At first I didn’t think much of it, but as I was coming across it more and
more, the more it got me thinking about it. For me, the opposite of
being real is being fake, and the opposite of rudeness is politeness, so I
honestly cannot understand how being rude equates with being real.
In my opinion, rudeness has nothing to do with realness and these two
should not be mixed up. People should not use realness as an excuse to be mean
and offensive. True, you can feel any way you want about things; and, also true,
you have the right to express those feelings. But you don’t have the right to
express them in a way that’s offensive.
That is a choice you make. How something is worded, is up to you and you
alone. You can be hurt, angry, disappointed, you name it, and still be polite.
Bitter and mean words won't add anything to your realness; they'll only make
you sound bitter, mean and pretentious.
Additionally,
once said, words can never be taken back. You can regret them, apologise for
them, but no matter what, they will always have been uttered. And people may
forgive you, but they will always remember what you've said and how you've made
them feel.
“I've learned that people will
forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never
forget how you made them feel.”
― Maya Angelou
Take care,
M.